Quarter-Life Crisis: What It Is and How to Survive It

Bright Light Counseling Center
Aug 25
3 min read

A quarter-life crisis is often dismissed as a buzzword or something that young people go through. But for many, it is a very real and intense experience. If you are in your 20s or early 30s and feeling overwhelmed or uncertain about your future, you might be in the middle of a quarter-life crisis.

Let’s break down what it is, why it happens, and how you can deal with it.

What Is a Quarter-Life Crisis?

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A quarter-life crisis refers to a period of anxiety, self-doubt, and confusion that usually occurs in your mid-20s to early 30s. It is a time when you may feel unsure about your career, relationships, or life goals. Unlike a midlife crisis, which often comes later in life, the quarter-life crisis happens when you are beginning to confront the realities of adulthood but have not yet figured out exactly where you fit.

This time of uncertainty often involves questioning the decisions you’ve made so far, wondering if you’re on the right path, or comparing yourself to others who seem to have it all together. The pressure to meet expectations from family, friends, or social media can contribute to these feelings of inadequacy.

Why Does It Happen?

A quarter-life crisis happens because you are at a point in life where big changes are taking place. You may have recently graduated from school, started a new job, or even moved away from home. The transition from adolescence to adulthood is not always as smooth as it seems.

Pressure to Succeed: Many young people feel pressure to achieve certain milestones by a specific age; whether it is securing a job, buying a home, or starting a family. These societal pressures can create anxiety and lead to feelings of being behind in life.
Financial Stress: Student loans, credit card debt, and the high cost of living can create financial stress. It is easy to feel overwhelmed when you are just starting your career and trying to find stability.
Comparison with Peers: In the age of social media, it is easy to compare yourself to others. Seeing friends get promotions, buy houses, or travel the world can make you feel like you are falling behind or not achieving enough.
Changing Priorities: As you grow older, your priorities and values often shift. What seemed important in your teens and early 20s may no longer align with who you are becoming. This internal shift can be confusing and uncomfortable.

How to Deal with a Quarter-Life Crisis

While a quarter-life crisis can be difficult, it is important to remember that it is a natural part of growing up. Here are a few strategies to help you navigate this challenging time:

Reflect on Your Values and Goals

Take some time to reflect on what truly matters to you. Ask yourself what your values are and what you want your life to look like. This can help you create a sense of direction and purpose, even if your path does not look like others’.

Take Steps Toward Change

If you evaluate different areas of your life and realize you need a change, remember it is never too late. This could be spicing up your day-to-day with a new hobby, making a career change, rethinking your relationship, or trying to make new friends. Making changes to better your life will only lead you to feeling happier and more confident.

Limit Social Media Use

Social media can exaggerate feelings of inadequacy. It’s easy to compare your life to others online, but remember that what you see is often not the full story. Take breaks from social media to focus on your own life.