Attachment trauma shapes how people trust others, manage emotions, and build relationships. Many adults live with its effects without knowing the cause. They often blame themselves for feeling guarded, needy, avoidant, or disconnected. The truth is simpler. Their nervous system learned survival before it learned connection.
Anxiety about marriage is often tied to broader themes: fear of failure, loss of independence, past relationship trauma, or uncertainty about identity. For some, it may come from growing up in a family where marriage was unstable or conflict was common. For others, it can emerge from perfectionism or the pressure to meet external expectations. Marriage represents both a personal and social milestone, so it can activate unresolved issues about control, trust, and self-worth.
Dating while managing a chronic illness will never be easy, but by being honest, setting boundaries, taking care of your emotional well-being, and seeking professional support, you can build strong relationships that honor both your health and your desire for love.
